Love cannot be found where it doesn't exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does.This one line in itself contains everything i am going to discuss with unstinting devotion and unreserved enthusiasm in my first blog and few subsequent blogs.
I have already spoiled your very precious 1 minute , so lets directly fly to our main topic.What is possessiveness?..Dictionary/general meaning: a feeling pertaining to ownership or possession.So can someone or should someone show possessiveness over something which is not his property or over something which is his property.Whatever your opinion is, its true for things.
What about persons? ask yourself can a person.. parent, wife or husband has ownership or possession over another person.I agree with you, he hasn't.So where in the hell this word Possessiveness exists for people.The truth is friends, it does and does even when you don't possess someone because there is and has always been a difference in the way you think and feel about the things you love and about the people you love.So should we conclude that possessiveness is related to love.Hold on a second you might be right but we should not jump to any conclusion until we touch the last full-stop(.)Possessiveness can result from lack of faith,absence of direct and transparent communication, scarcity of self-confidence and abundance of care or from all of them.It is also jealously opposed to any influence other than one's own.Its little confusing, how and more importantly why Possessiveness is due to lack of faith or abundance of care.Let me simplify, its driven due to fear to loose someone or something you consider very vital for yourself.
Now when we have understood the meaning of Possessiveness we are qualified to distinguish Possessiveness from other feelings and to decide whether it should be allowed to be a relationship-wrecker.
It goes without saying that "the more precious stone is in your hand, the more tightly you close your fist". Because if this precious thing is not your part it can't bind itself to you,and when you don't want to loose it the only option you are left with is to close your fist in a way so that it would not fall and would not be damaged as well.Is this an easy task..hell no, chances of safe-landings are rare.So only life-saver is a healthy common understanding.
When you go out with your friends say on some hill,your parents tell you not to go near ditches,do they say this because they think you are going to jump into valley, they just care for you.When you have just learned riding a bike and you go somewhere you are advised to cross the roads carefully, do they mean to say that you don't know how to cross the road?
People fence their house to protect it from encroachment because house can't protect itself.Had house known whom to allow and whom not to,who is going to make a temple in it and who is going to make it a brothel(a center of prostitution), there has not been any need of fencing.What house want is decorations,visitors,thrill,manic..irrespective of the purpose.House is not sensible enough to understand someone's feeling but what about us? We should ask this question to ourselves that should we spoil our precious relationship due to these small things.Finally its your cup of tea.....r.k.r
I have already spoiled your very precious 1 minute , so lets directly fly to our main topic.What is possessiveness?..Dictionary/general meaning: a feeling pertaining to ownership or possession.So can someone or should someone show possessiveness over something which is not his property or over something which is his property.Whatever your opinion is, its true for things.
What about persons? ask yourself can a person.. parent, wife or husband has ownership or possession over another person.I agree with you, he hasn't.So where in the hell this word Possessiveness exists for people.The truth is friends, it does and does even when you don't possess someone because there is and has always been a difference in the way you think and feel about the things you love and about the people you love.So should we conclude that possessiveness is related to love.Hold on a second you might be right but we should not jump to any conclusion until we touch the last full-stop(.)Possessiveness can result from lack of faith,absence of direct and transparent communication, scarcity of self-confidence and abundance of care or from all of them.It is also jealously opposed to any influence other than one's own.Its little confusing, how and more importantly why Possessiveness is due to lack of faith or abundance of care.Let me simplify, its driven due to fear to loose someone or something you consider very vital for yourself.
Now when we have understood the meaning of Possessiveness we are qualified to distinguish Possessiveness from other feelings and to decide whether it should be allowed to be a relationship-wrecker.
It goes without saying that "the more precious stone is in your hand, the more tightly you close your fist". Because if this precious thing is not your part it can't bind itself to you,and when you don't want to loose it the only option you are left with is to close your fist in a way so that it would not fall and would not be damaged as well.Is this an easy task..hell no, chances of safe-landings are rare.So only life-saver is a healthy common understanding.
When you go out with your friends say on some hill,your parents tell you not to go near ditches,do they say this because they think you are going to jump into valley, they just care for you.When you have just learned riding a bike and you go somewhere you are advised to cross the roads carefully, do they mean to say that you don't know how to cross the road?
People fence their house to protect it from encroachment because house can't protect itself.Had house known whom to allow and whom not to,who is going to make a temple in it and who is going to make it a brothel(a center of prostitution), there has not been any need of fencing.What house want is decorations,visitors,thrill,manic..irrespective of the purpose.House is not sensible enough to understand someone's feeling but what about us? We should ask this question to ourselves that should we spoil our precious relationship due to these small things.Finally its your cup of tea.....r.k.r
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